moms sick!!

What about me? what about when I get sick? well let me give you the break down.
Well when the kids and husband are sick the days are pretty much the same for me the food still gets cooked the house still gets clean and the kids still get where they need to go. However there is a lot more fussing for all involved, about fevers and vomit and snot. When moms gets sick every thing stops! the dishes are piled up the daughter wears the same pair of jeans for three days and no one notices she has snarls in her hair and the boy well I guess he is still the boy. I am however wearing the same pajamas for the last three days and smell like pee because when ever I sneeze I pee myself. Just one of the joys of having two babies in 16 months. My nose is stuffy then drippy my head feels like its going to explode and I cant hear because my ears feel plugged. Im running a fever so I get hot then cold then hot then cold.God help me if this is what menopause is like.  The bed is my only sanctuary. Today dying peacefully  until the movie I'm watching abruptly turns off because my husband is DVR-ing something with Snoop Dog. REALLY Snoop Dog how much reality TV can one person watch? and I checked its not just one episode he is taping it for the next three hours so here I am ! On a lighter note I have not blogged in over a year and I happen to miss it. maybe no one else has missed my blog but I sure have.
My husband however is super sweet when I'm sick he calls to check on me and brings me chocolate pudding and offers to take my temperature.( I wont tell you with what or where)  He says I sound like I gargled with sand paper I think he secretly thinks my husky voice is sexy.

a day in the life of SICK rock star mom.
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Panties in a bunch

Ive been reading alot about the whole Miley Cyrus thing. This is not new, it seems all the cutie patooty Disney girls turn out all wrong. However you cannot blame the media on our lack of parenting or our over protective parenting. When I was kid I went out side and played with my friends all year round, we rode bikes and stayed out until the street lights came on. My mom didnt know where I was half the time and as long as I heard her yell for me and came runnin I didnt get my butt kicked. NOW on to my parenting. When I had my first child at 22 I raised her in Arizona where NO kids played outside due to weather or crime or whatever . So I lived in fear and wanted to lo-jack my toddler,  She as an only child learned to play with her toys and entertain herself very well. It sucked because I remember playing outside all the time and she just didnt have that. We moved back to Michigan and she made friends in the neighborhood and I let her ride her bike in the subdivision and swim at the neighbors and I felt fine with that. Now I have have two more children and we moved from the city about an hour away to the country to a dirt, dead end road. My kids play out side all day long in the summer and play with the neighbor kids. Now do I let my six year old ride his bike in the road like he wants NO but I'm not an over protective freak like I was with the first kid. I still baby them like crazy and pray for a hedge of protection around them every day and have to have faith in that. Now I still  feel a little spaz in my stomach when I know they will be swimming all day and they would bump their head on the dock and drown but I gotta have faith. My goodness I used to go ice skating on Kelly's lake for hours and never thought to check how thick the ice was or worry about falling through. My kids play with each other and play game's not video games, they make forts out of my living room furniture and do crafts. They don't even know who Miley Cyrus is! Now if they did see it or anything else like it and asked me about it I wouldn't sugar coat it. I hope when all is said and done my kids make decisions that make me proud and I have nothing but sympathy for Miley's dad he must be mortified!
 We need to remember who's responsibility these kids are, OUR'S we cannot protect them from the media or their peers we just have to be pouring in all the good stuff, words of affirmation, morals, good work ethic, compassion, empathy to balance out all the negative crap. So take responsibility for the future and raise your little people to be GOOD people loving people smart people because honestly this generation of 15 to 23 year old's scare me. lets try to get it right with this next group shall we. Don't helicopter parent but don't let the media be the only influence on your kids. Every generation has its issues and the generation above it says the young people are doing it all wrong and how " when I was a kid..." well I didn't walk up hill in the snow to school but I also didn't have my own little computer in my pocket I turned out fine and I think Im Rockn this mom thing ! So make your grandma proud and raise some GREAT kids.
 Parenting is tough like anything else that is worth anything, its every day all day all night blessing. so stop worrying about what your kids may or may not see on TV and kiss their little cheeks both sets !

TTFN

Privacy ?

Privacy? you must be joking moms don't get privacy. I spend my day at work sitting in a cubicle with 15 other people around me, they hear everything I say on the phone or mumble under my breath they see everything I do from discreetly pick at a booger to adjust my bra Im afraid to fart with my head phones on because it might be loud enough for the person that sits 6 inches from me might hear it.   I finally get home and all I want to do it go to the bath room and take a quick shower 15 minutes MAX! well I even shut the main door to the master suite hoping for a few minutes alone... well my son barges in once asking me I don't even remember what and I tell him to please knock when the door is closed and send him away, then he knocks and comes in all in one clean motion mom can I watch TV well its like 100 degrees out and if it gets me some privacy heck yea. " yes baby that is fine" he skips away then he comes running in about in tears mumma the remote is not working ! I look at him from the toilet and say do I really look like I can help you right now? and he stomps away. I finally get done and get in the shower after peeling my clothes off of me now mind you I worked 8 hours drove for two then sat in the heat for an hour while watching my darling son play his last game of baseball for the season AND the husband comes in and tries to talk to me while I'm in the shower and when I yell I cannot hear you he grumbles something about me being in a bad mood. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? all I wanted was 15 minutes. UGG oh and the only reason the girls didn't bother me during this time was that they were not home. 15 minutes in the life of Rock star mom.

CAN I PROTECT THEM?

Can I protect them?

Can I protect them from being attacked on their schools from a man with a gun?

Can I protect them from a man at their college with a knife?

Can I protect them from a bomb at school or a sporting event?

Can I protect them from being abducted on their way from the bus stop?

Can I protect them from being killed in an accident on the school bus due to no seat belts?

It's my job as their mother to protect them.  What options do I have?  Home school, no sports, no college?  Oh and I cannot let them get a job because it could be bombed?  What are my options?  

I live in fear when God tells me not to fear, I pray for their protection with a pit in my stomach.  We do not talk about the tragedies that plague our world  at home to protect them while their small, but I don’t want them to hear about it ever at all.  How can I protect them when this is all out of my control?  I could have a huge bubble put over our 5 acres and never let them out, is that an option?  How else can I protect them?  I'm afraid for them, am I the only one? Life is hard enough, marriage is a daily challenge,  parenting with a balance of love and encouragement and discipline, work no work, emotional and physical well being keeping up with the house and the needs there, keeping your fake face up for the people that you see during the day because God forbid you let anyone know how you really feel.   We can just all get on anti depressants or drugs for all the new diseases and ailments, we can read a self help book and get some therapy.

Maybe the people who are doing this weren’t breast fed. Maybe their dad didn’t spank them as a kid, Maybe they have some kind of disorder like PTSD, ADD, ADHD, OCD, ODD, ED, BD, or maybe its all BS I don’t know.

I know that accidents happen at home, I know tragedy can strike at home I know, I know, but what I don’t know is how I can let my children out of arms without having a sick feeling inside me.

Can I protect them?

TTFN

Rock Star Mom

REAL DAD'S

I read an article today about a jail that hosted a daddy daughter dance for the inmates and their daughters. I love the pictures that portraid the happiness and sadness of the day for both the daughters and the incarserated fathers. Now the arcticle was written by some ignorant heffer! and dont get me started in the sick people who think this is something sexual, Give me a freakn break !
The arcticle talks about how the daddy daughter dances are something from the 1950's. There were complaints from the lesbians saying its not fair to their daughters and even the Girl Scouts changed the name of their dances to  SAM dances, SAM stands for significant adult male as well as some one special and me dances REALLY??? This is the problem, where are the fathers of these children? Okay the article is about incarcerated fathers, well at least those kids know where their dads are! what about the fathers of the kids who just leave, who have nothing to do with their kids by choice, if you want my opinion THEY should be in jail for bailing! Okay so the fathers in jail committed a crime and they are paying for that but the fathers that just bail don't pay child support they don't help the mothers with the kids they do not even see their children. Most of them have committed crimes and just have not gotten caught. I can tell you that my oldest daughters father stole radios out of brand new cars right off the car lot among other things and just never got caught!
The article also said that according to the 2011 census more than 50% of children are raised by unmarried women. THIS IS CRAZY TO ME. What is going on where are these fathers? I thought well maybe grandpa could take the kids to the daddy daughter dances but you know what? he is no where to be found either because this is the second generation where kids are being raised my single mothers. Does any one think about that? Look back, could you imagine not having a grandfather? So lets think about this, a women has a child with a man and he leaves and she has to raise the child on her own and then her daughter meets a man and because she does not know what a good man looks like she then has a daughter with this man who leaves her to raise the child on her own and this just goes on and on and on. Children need a father. The article talks about being old fashioned well maybe that is the problem. WE generation x, this is us, this is what we did. Our grandmothers just two generations ago didn't work, they stayed home with the kids they were married before they had children, divorce was not something that was talked about, was that so bad? Then our parents, well they were still married before they had children mostly anyway, even with free love but divorce was becoming pretty prevalent and that made us Gen X'ers  a little freaked out by the whole marriage thing so we started saying ya know what lets just live together first ya know a trial run and this started to have children out of wedlock. But don't use the word bastard cuz people get offended.
Then we segway into another of my awesome rockn blogs about marriage and how it is overrated. READ IT
Our level of exceptance  has hit the floor we will let lesbians bitch about daddy daughter dances and the Girl Scouts of American think its okay to change the name of the dance to accommodate out messed up idea of a secular family. The Bradys were a blended family but the parents married because they were widows not because of divorce or no marriage at all. I get that marriage is tough I get that couples have children outside of wedlock, I get that baby daddy's leave Ive been there I'm not being a hipocrit and on not bashing gays but this is my blog and I say what I want.
 We need to stop this crazy-ness go back to no sex before marriage how about saving yourself for your future wife/ husband? How about teaching our kids to save themselves that sex is sacred that marriage is sacred and teach it to your sons not just your daughters. Do I think a women's place is in the kitchen? Do I think only men leave? Do I think that a women should stay in a marriage that is unhealthy to her and their children NOOO there are always exceptions to the rules. Okay now Im digressing just read my blog about marriage I'm not getting into all that again.
 When my hubby took our daughter to the daddy daughter dance was not for him it was for her, However the daddy daughter dance at the jail was just as much for the daddy's as it was for the daughters.
okay I guess I'm done
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Monsters and Melatonin the sequel

OK we last left off with an appointment with the Doc, well she asked me  questions about am I living a sedimentary life style and I said so I go to the gym four days a week and on that note Ive not lost a pound, then she asked if maybe I had sleep apnea and I said no. so she set me up with a sleep study...or so I thought. so I'm out of nuvigil and the insurance wont cover any more until I have a diagnosis so they gave  me some samples.hallelujah ...a week goes by no word from the sleep study place then another week then another week IM DYING HERE and now I'm out of Nuvigil again so I call the docs office. they never called in for the sleep study OMG!!!! They will try to get me more samples. Then finally a month later I get the sleep study but still no samples. The sleep study was on a Saturday I have a night study and a day study. they hook me up like frankensleepystein and I go right to sleep. the next morning the tec says well you don't have Apnea ... I was like your kidding me ?? I already knew that so what do I have?  and he says restless leg syndrome ..well Ive seen the commercial and the women complains of tingles and a need to move and stuff I dont have that this guy is stupid....so I look at him and said I don't have any symptoms of that and he just kinda grinned at me.. he said the average person moves their legs about 25 times a night and it does not wake them you move yours over 600 and of those 600 you wake up 300 times a night not a conscious wake but enough to make you wake up unrested. Im thinking If I have these mad midnight ninja skills how come my husband has not noticed ? But okay lets roll with it soooo TADAAA  light at the end of the tunnel..... or do we?  so moving on to Wednesday I have the sleep study in my hand and a copy has been sent to My Drs office. I called my Dr and leave a message to come in. This goes on for about 3 weeks no one calls me back. I'm leaving nasty messages as this point!  Ive  gone back to drinking monsters and sleeping at work because they never did get me any Nuvigil, stopped going to the gym because I just cant get out of bed  and diagnosed myself and decided what drugs I need. Also on the diagnosis it says I have Hypersonmia which is a form of narcolepsy which I thought I had all along. I even faxed over the sleep study to my old Dr who I still see when my new Dr cannot get me in for a same day appointment. And her secretary calls me and says I'm due for my   PAP..are you kidding me I'm dying here and you want to look at my Vagina????  UGGG so out of desperation I go see my husbands Dr and he says Um I don't even know what hypersomnia is lets get you an appointment with the guy who reviewed the sleep study results and came up with this diagnosis...and go see this Dr I like that specializes in wierd stuff he knows medications !   okay ..so I go see that guy and he spends like 25 minutes going over a do you have this check list and gives me a gamut of meds to try... the one I was super excited about was Provigil kinda like Nuvigil ! So I get that filled the next day and I'm still tired what is going on?? UG so I go see the sleep Dr guy  and his nurse chick right after I get in gets a measuring tape and measures my neck ???? I'm like WTF but I was nice and said I don't mean to be rude but why are you measuring my neck ( hoping I get like a complimentary bow tie if Im good ) and she says the size of your neck can effect your sleep apnea. I said I don't have sleep apnea! so glad she is not the Dr. GEEEZEEE..... so the Dr comes in and does not say much and does not ask much. just send me on my way with a prescription. I get it filled thinking its going to make every thing alright again and I take it and I vomit I try to take it again and I vomit the next night yea you guessed in I vomit. Oh and did I mention I'm puking up the provigil that costs me $100 a month yea no joke $100 a month. ....well this is not working. I look up the pukey pill  on line and the side effects are so scary I'm glad I puked the things up. So I don't see him any more. but I'm still seeing the medication guy Ive seen him three times and we are still trying to find the magic pills that make me not tired. I have a RX for Nuvigil so I'm going back to that if my insurance will cover it. He also have me something for the RLS that my husband says is working. Apparently Im not kicking him with said  mad midnight ninja skills anymore.  My hope was that I would take care of the RLS and wake up refreshed because I had a good night sleep well that is just not happening. Oh and I'm a fat cow because Ive stopped going to the gym like 5 months ago...I'm going Monday for the first time even if I have to use the stationary bike instead of the tread mill. I might fall asleep and skid my face on the treadmill, I don't have to far to fall if I'm on the bike.  and My friend is driving us there and then to work. So feel free to be on the roads.
Well that's it for now. Ill follow up with any new info.

TTFN

The Good Wife.

I was given an article that I'm sure is a fake but it got me thinking. My parents were raised by stay at home mothers in the the 50's, those stay at home moms raised some hippy free love adults. Then those drug induced hippys had kids  and were un sure about what the wife should be doing. Work out side the home or be a stay at home wife and mother.  And  that is where my story begins.

Here is the article from 1955     The good wife's guide
These are the "roles" of the wife.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tBU8yD_nGs

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables.
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
• Be happy to see him.
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
• Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
• Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
• Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
• A good wife always knows her place.

 Ok then.... now lets move on to the kids the Hippy's raised.
Here is the role of the 2012 MOM. Well at least Rock Star MOM's

Rock star Moms good wife guide.

Dinner ...well Dinner is at 7:00 and usually my husband prepared it. No one wants to eat what I cook. AKA  boiled gray chicken. or we eat frozen pizza and god help us if my husband is not home cause we eat outta the cereal box.

Prepare yourself..... look refreshed really ? Ive been gone since six this morning and went to the gym and to work. poor guy gets smudged eye make up and by that time I get home after an hour drive  Ive taken off my jewelry and probably some of my clothes on the drive home.

Be a little  gay and interesting.... when I Get home on the days I don't have to beep the horn from the drive way  to get a kid to some kind of practice all I want is a glass of wine! so IF he wants to be entertained he is gonna need to turn on the TV.

Clear away the clutter... I'm lucky if I can get in the door there are so many shoes in the door way!  who will clean away the clutter for me?

gather up school books toys and dust...... I wish!   When I get home the kids have flung their backpacks right along with the shoes. and I only get to dust on SSaturdays.

light a fire and cater to his comfort...... catering to his comfort giving me immense personal satisfaction well that is a two way street.  He makes sure my needs are met or he gets a whiny fussy wife.

Prepare the children .... for what ? There is no point in him being in denial about the behavior of his children ! please !

Be happy to see him..... Ok I am kinda all over this one.

Greet him with a warm smile and desire to please him.........Well after the kids maul me at the door "which I love" I go get my kiss from my man so the greeting is mutual .


listen to him remember his topics of conversation are more important that your...... WOW!!! harsh.  My husband knows all the gossip that goes on in my office and in the lives of my girls. He listens to me talk about facebook and my blog and my words with Friends and he respects my thoughts and input and the way the house is ran and the children are raised and if he doesn't well sometime ladies you just have to talk louder maybe he has a listening impediment. But on the other hand I listen to sports talk and learn how to smile and nod. I rock this wife thing!

Make the evening his.....Never complain if he comes home late ....  complain please Im saying my piece and if you call it nagging I will punch you in your eye! and just get louder. again with the hearing impediment.
Allow him to relax. Relax time is 9:00 P.M,  that is when mommy time ends. The kids are in bed but your gonna have to offer something pretty good to keep me from going to bed.


Your goal is to make home peaceful and tranquil....... That is only gonna happen if I get to sedate the kids. And he already said I couldn't.


Don't greet him with complaints ......too late the kids already got me on that one. If I'm the first one home I'm half way through a glass of wine and I'm " all is good" and he walks in and the kids are yelling the house is filled with smoke cause I forgot about dinner and the dogs are dry humping each other in the entry way,


Don't complain if he comes home late or even stays out all night...... Let my husband stay out all night and he will find his stuff in the front yard and barbed wire over the doors maybe even a moat filled with hungry vampire alligators around the house.

Make him comfortable...... He must be pretty comfy cause he is sleepin' in the recliner at 7:30 holding the remote and one hand and ....well we all know where the the other hand is.


Arrange his pillows and take off his shoes and speak in a low soothing voice. .... I know some of you have not met me but quiet and pleasant is not what I do best. He is lucky he has a pillow by the time he gets to bed cause I stole it.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement..... yea right  I have every right to question every thing he does and question his judgement.  We make decisions together and If he is wrong well it is my responsibility to tell him. Or he can talk to the hungry vampire alligators.

A good wife always knows her place.... This still stands true. Ladies respect your husbands and remember they are simple...... keep their balls empty and their bellies full.

TTFN