its ok if you think you suck at this mom thing!

Momm'n is hard I know you are trying hard...well most of you are some of you just dont care but thats a whole other blog.

I want you to know you are enough and your kids think so as well. Maybe deeeeeep down in side but they do. Even when they are screaming at you and telling you that you are the worst mom ever and they hate you. I want you to know that there is no substitution for your presence and being in your child life. NO ONE can love them like you can, even when you feel like you are the worst mom ever and you feel  terribly inadequate there is no one better equipped than you. God gave you these children and gave you to them you can do this!

When you are burning dinner and the smoke detector goes off ..well at least your making dinner tonight is the first night my kids have had a real mean since I stated back working for time.

When you have to sneak away to have a sip of wine or a chocolate bar in the bathroom that"s ok you are enough! You have to have 2 minutes sometimes so you don"t loose your $h*t in front of them, now I"m not saying you don"t loose it sometimes we all do I have said and done some things that I wont discuss on here I loose my cool all the time!

When you get home from work and all you want to do is get out of your work clothes and use the bathroom and you have kids following you up the stairs wanting to climb in your butt and you dont turn into a screaming monster with red eyes and instead say I just need two minutes you better pat yourself on the back cause momm'n is hard and that was a win!

when you wake up in the morning extra early just so you can have a few sips of coffee alone and your sweet baby comes downstairs and wants to talk to you and you dont threaten them with bloodily harm again a win. hey dont get me started on you over achievers that get up early to exercise that is a whole new kind of morning person that my mom zombie brain cannot grasp.

When your house it dirty the kids smell bad and you smell worse its all good.. if you have mom friends that are judgy dump um and come hang out with me I have wine and kids movies and I dont care if your kids are... well kids cause I have some of those too. 

When your kid has a bruise on his face  from sports and everyone looks at you at the store its ok, who cares if they think you hit the kid with a hammer at least you have your kids in sports and they are not at home playing video games every day. Not that Im against getting some me time while my kids be vidiots for a little while I get some well candy crush in. We all have to cope and balance doing this mom thing and we all have similar struggles so dont let those other moms judge you its ok to be a bad mom sometimes and and just loose your cool and say no to things like PTA and pampered chef parties. JUST SAY NO its ok !


I get that some days the radio in the car is to much noise just  knowing  you gotta get in mom mode on the drive home that's perfectly normal. Dreading your kids birthday parties yea that's normal as well. Its those little things that we as moms just get thru. Now I have gone to work with puke on my back, two different colored shoes and one time I didn't even have shoes on I had on my house slippers its all perfectly normal. So if you see me some where and I do look like I've got it all together well you better say something cause it took a lot of effort! like wow girl you look hot today or  the opposite if you see me and I've got something chunky in may hair well just pick it out don't make a big deal about it. We are all trying really hard to keep it together but know that you are enough. know. 


I understand we are just trying to keep it all together with our Erin Condren planners and I phones and cute coffee mugs that say things like lady boss;  when we know we are barely hangin' on to our sanity on most days. I know you gotta keep up your facebook persona that's ok too. Some times we all think are kids are jerks, but as long as you don't tell them that, its a win so go ahead and put a smug smile on your face cause you are rock'n this mom thing even when you think you suck at it. Sometimes I think I'm the worst mom ever and I just lock myself in the closet  and cry while I'm eating cookies, but then after a little while of little fingers under the door and the phone ringing and the dog howling you pull it together and come out with mascara streaming down your face and try again, at this point your kids think your crazy and get all quiet so maybe that's a good thing that they know mommy has a breaking point and you can use it in the future " if you guys don't knock it off I'm going back to the closet! 
 Its the little wins like kids on the honor roll and a sport victories and when you ask your kid to answer those stupid questions that are posted on face book saying without prompting ask your kids these questions and they say that they love you ten hundred when the options are 1-10 and lula roe its like mom Ger-animals that make it all worth it. So keep being a bad mom cause really your a great mom and what you feeling is perfectly normal and you are enough. And if you need to put wine in your fancy coffee mug on game days you go right ahead I wont judge. 

I may not get my ten thousand steps every day, I may cover up my grey hair with old mascara, I may wear leggins every day and I may hide snacks I dont want to share, but my kids know I love them and my husband thinks Im a good mom so Im gonna keep crying in the closet if I need to and going to bed at 8:30 on  Friday night and you keep being the mom you are being because YOU ARE ENOUGH!


TTFN

Mom FuNk

Ive been in such a funk lately. I have three hours all to my self almost every day from the time I get home from work to the time my little people get off the bus. THREE HOURS!!! Now usually, Ill come home and chill for a bit, change out of my work clothes and then commence the cleaning of the already clean house and contemplate some dinner, maybe do something Martha Stewart-E, go out to the green house something! Well lately I come home from work put on my dirty yoga pants that I grab off the floor from yesterday and sit in the big poppa (Ill post a picture of this for you in a moment.) I swear there is a permanent butt print in the thing. Then I settle in and begin  perusing facebook on my phone for a while and then watching DIY tv and drinking over priced tea and doing nothing else until the kids get home, then I make them grilled cheese or frozen pizza for dinner. I only clean what is dirty and the laundry is sitting in baskets in the hall. Im cranky with my kids when they do come home cause they want to be kids. UG what is wrong with me? My girl Jaynie said its seasonal depression disorder or some crap, well I dont like to label my FUNKS so I decided to just blog about it.
 Im sure Im not the only mom who gets like this! FESS UP! you know you are cranky too!  I mean look at the picture of Lucy above, that is exactly how I feel, just not motivated to do anything. I go to work and get my stuff done and cant wait to just get home and do NOTHING for the rest of the day.  So here I sit in my big poppa pondering my crankiness and my funk. Now dont get me wrong I dont think Im depressed or even unhappy its just this lack of motivation and I get cranky when I have to get off my butt and do ANYTHING, like parent or pee. Time to get out of this chair..oh wait freinds is on..just one more episode and then Ill get moving. yes there is defiantly a butt print in this chair, its like my nest I purch in it with my laptop, my kindle, my phone, the remote and a cup of tea/wine/coffee depending on the day. Come on moms tell me how you have gotten out of your funks I know all you over worked, under appreciated, medicated and intoxicated moms have gone thru this.


well I guess thats it for today
TTFN
Not feeling  so RockStar mom

moms sick!!

What about me? what about when I get sick? well let me give you the break down.
Well when the kids and husband are sick the days are pretty much the same for me the food still gets cooked the house still gets clean and the kids still get where they need to go. However there is a lot more fussing for all involved, about fevers and vomit and snot. When moms gets sick every thing stops! the dishes are piled up the daughter wears the same pair of jeans for three days and no one notices she has snarls in her hair and the boy well I guess he is still the boy. I am however wearing the same pajamas for the last three days and smell like pee because when ever I sneeze I pee myself. Just one of the joys of having two babies in 16 months. My nose is stuffy then drippy my head feels like its going to explode and I cant hear because my ears feel plugged. Im running a fever so I get hot then cold then hot then cold.God help me if this is what menopause is like.  The bed is my only sanctuary. Today dying peacefully  until the movie I'm watching abruptly turns off because my husband is DVR-ing something with Snoop Dog. REALLY Snoop Dog how much reality TV can one person watch? and I checked its not just one episode he is taping it for the next three hours so here I am ! On a lighter note I have not blogged in over a year and I happen to miss it. maybe no one else has missed my blog but I sure have.
My husband however is super sweet when I'm sick he calls to check on me and brings me chocolate pudding and offers to take my temperature.( I wont tell you with what or where)  He says I sound like I gargled with sand paper I think he secretly thinks my husky voice is sexy.

a day in the life of SICK rock star mom.
TTFN

Panties in a bunch

Ive been reading alot about the whole Miley Cyrus thing. This is not new, it seems all the cutie patooty Disney girls turn out all wrong. However you cannot blame the media on our lack of parenting or our over protective parenting. When I was kid I went out side and played with my friends all year round, we rode bikes and stayed out until the street lights came on. My mom didnt know where I was half the time and as long as I heard her yell for me and came runnin I didnt get my butt kicked. NOW on to my parenting. When I had my first child at 22 I raised her in Arizona where NO kids played outside due to weather or crime or whatever . So I lived in fear and wanted to lo-jack my toddler,  She as an only child learned to play with her toys and entertain herself very well. It sucked because I remember playing outside all the time and she just didnt have that. We moved back to Michigan and she made friends in the neighborhood and I let her ride her bike in the subdivision and swim at the neighbors and I felt fine with that. Now I have have two more children and we moved from the city about an hour away to the country to a dirt, dead end road. My kids play out side all day long in the summer and play with the neighbor kids. Now do I let my six year old ride his bike in the road like he wants NO but I'm not an over protective freak like I was with the first kid. I still baby them like crazy and pray for a hedge of protection around them every day and have to have faith in that. Now I still  feel a little spaz in my stomach when I know they will be swimming all day and they would bump their head on the dock and drown but I gotta have faith. My goodness I used to go ice skating on Kelly's lake for hours and never thought to check how thick the ice was or worry about falling through. My kids play with each other and play game's not video games, they make forts out of my living room furniture and do crafts. They don't even know who Miley Cyrus is! Now if they did see it or anything else like it and asked me about it I wouldn't sugar coat it. I hope when all is said and done my kids make decisions that make me proud and I have nothing but sympathy for Miley's dad he must be mortified!
 We need to remember who's responsibility these kids are, OUR'S we cannot protect them from the media or their peers we just have to be pouring in all the good stuff, words of affirmation, morals, good work ethic, compassion, empathy to balance out all the negative crap. So take responsibility for the future and raise your little people to be GOOD people loving people smart people because honestly this generation of 15 to 23 year old's scare me. lets try to get it right with this next group shall we. Don't helicopter parent but don't let the media be the only influence on your kids. Every generation has its issues and the generation above it says the young people are doing it all wrong and how " when I was a kid..." well I didn't walk up hill in the snow to school but I also didn't have my own little computer in my pocket I turned out fine and I think Im Rockn this mom thing ! So make your grandma proud and raise some GREAT kids.
 Parenting is tough like anything else that is worth anything, its every day all day all night blessing. so stop worrying about what your kids may or may not see on TV and kiss their little cheeks both sets !

TTFN

Privacy ?

Privacy? you must be joking moms don't get privacy. I spend my day at work sitting in a cubicle with 15 other people around me, they hear everything I say on the phone or mumble under my breath they see everything I do from discreetly pick at a booger to adjust my bra Im afraid to fart with my head phones on because it might be loud enough for the person that sits 6 inches from me might hear it.   I finally get home and all I want to do it go to the bath room and take a quick shower 15 minutes MAX! well I even shut the main door to the master suite hoping for a few minutes alone... well my son barges in once asking me I don't even remember what and I tell him to please knock when the door is closed and send him away, then he knocks and comes in all in one clean motion mom can I watch TV well its like 100 degrees out and if it gets me some privacy heck yea. " yes baby that is fine" he skips away then he comes running in about in tears mumma the remote is not working ! I look at him from the toilet and say do I really look like I can help you right now? and he stomps away. I finally get done and get in the shower after peeling my clothes off of me now mind you I worked 8 hours drove for two then sat in the heat for an hour while watching my darling son play his last game of baseball for the season AND the husband comes in and tries to talk to me while I'm in the shower and when I yell I cannot hear you he grumbles something about me being in a bad mood. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? all I wanted was 15 minutes. UGG oh and the only reason the girls didn't bother me during this time was that they were not home. 15 minutes in the life of Rock star mom.

CAN I PROTECT THEM?

Can I protect them?

Can I protect them from being attacked on their schools from a man with a gun?

Can I protect them from a man at their college with a knife?

Can I protect them from a bomb at school or a sporting event?

Can I protect them from being abducted on their way from the bus stop?

Can I protect them from being killed in an accident on the school bus due to no seat belts?

It's my job as their mother to protect them.  What options do I have?  Home school, no sports, no college?  Oh and I cannot let them get a job because it could be bombed?  What are my options?  

I live in fear when God tells me not to fear, I pray for their protection with a pit in my stomach.  We do not talk about the tragedies that plague our world  at home to protect them while their small, but I don’t want them to hear about it ever at all.  How can I protect them when this is all out of my control?  I could have a huge bubble put over our 5 acres and never let them out, is that an option?  How else can I protect them?  I'm afraid for them, am I the only one? Life is hard enough, marriage is a daily challenge,  parenting with a balance of love and encouragement and discipline, work no work, emotional and physical well being keeping up with the house and the needs there, keeping your fake face up for the people that you see during the day because God forbid you let anyone know how you really feel.   We can just all get on anti depressants or drugs for all the new diseases and ailments, we can read a self help book and get some therapy.

Maybe the people who are doing this weren’t breast fed. Maybe their dad didn’t spank them as a kid, Maybe they have some kind of disorder like PTSD, ADD, ADHD, OCD, ODD, ED, BD, or maybe its all BS I don’t know.

I know that accidents happen at home, I know tragedy can strike at home I know, I know, but what I don’t know is how I can let my children out of arms without having a sick feeling inside me.

Can I protect them?

TTFN

Rock Star Mom

REAL DAD'S

I read an article today about a jail that hosted a daddy daughter dance for the inmates and their daughters. I love the pictures that portraid the happiness and sadness of the day for both the daughters and the incarserated fathers. Now the arcticle was written by some ignorant heffer! and dont get me started in the sick people who think this is something sexual, Give me a freakn break !
The arcticle talks about how the daddy daughter dances are something from the 1950's. There were complaints from the lesbians saying its not fair to their daughters and even the Girl Scouts changed the name of their dances to  SAM dances, SAM stands for significant adult male as well as some one special and me dances REALLY??? This is the problem, where are the fathers of these children? Okay the article is about incarcerated fathers, well at least those kids know where their dads are! what about the fathers of the kids who just leave, who have nothing to do with their kids by choice, if you want my opinion THEY should be in jail for bailing! Okay so the fathers in jail committed a crime and they are paying for that but the fathers that just bail don't pay child support they don't help the mothers with the kids they do not even see their children. Most of them have committed crimes and just have not gotten caught. I can tell you that my oldest daughters father stole radios out of brand new cars right off the car lot among other things and just never got caught!
The article also said that according to the 2011 census more than 50% of children are raised by unmarried women. THIS IS CRAZY TO ME. What is going on where are these fathers? I thought well maybe grandpa could take the kids to the daddy daughter dances but you know what? he is no where to be found either because this is the second generation where kids are being raised my single mothers. Does any one think about that? Look back, could you imagine not having a grandfather? So lets think about this, a women has a child with a man and he leaves and she has to raise the child on her own and then her daughter meets a man and because she does not know what a good man looks like she then has a daughter with this man who leaves her to raise the child on her own and this just goes on and on and on. Children need a father. The article talks about being old fashioned well maybe that is the problem. WE generation x, this is us, this is what we did. Our grandmothers just two generations ago didn't work, they stayed home with the kids they were married before they had children, divorce was not something that was talked about, was that so bad? Then our parents, well they were still married before they had children mostly anyway, even with free love but divorce was becoming pretty prevalent and that made us Gen X'ers  a little freaked out by the whole marriage thing so we started saying ya know what lets just live together first ya know a trial run and this started to have children out of wedlock. But don't use the word bastard cuz people get offended.
Then we segway into another of my awesome rockn blogs about marriage and how it is overrated. READ IT
Our level of exceptance  has hit the floor we will let lesbians bitch about daddy daughter dances and the Girl Scouts of American think its okay to change the name of the dance to accommodate out messed up idea of a secular family. The Bradys were a blended family but the parents married because they were widows not because of divorce or no marriage at all. I get that marriage is tough I get that couples have children outside of wedlock, I get that baby daddy's leave Ive been there I'm not being a hipocrit and on not bashing gays but this is my blog and I say what I want.
 We need to stop this crazy-ness go back to no sex before marriage how about saving yourself for your future wife/ husband? How about teaching our kids to save themselves that sex is sacred that marriage is sacred and teach it to your sons not just your daughters. Do I think a women's place is in the kitchen? Do I think only men leave? Do I think that a women should stay in a marriage that is unhealthy to her and their children NOOO there are always exceptions to the rules. Okay now Im digressing just read my blog about marriage I'm not getting into all that again.
 When my hubby took our daughter to the daddy daughter dance was not for him it was for her, However the daddy daughter dance at the jail was just as much for the daddy's as it was for the daughters.
okay I guess I'm done
TTFN